How to Find Hope in Challenging Times

If you’ve been feeling helpless and hopeless lately, you’re not alone. A few months ago, the World Health Organization reported a worldwide rise in anxiety and depression (WHO, Sept 2025), and our sense of security has been undermined by rapid changes in technology, economics, politics, and the aftereffects of the COVID pandemic (Kruglanski et al., 2025).

We’re experiencing chronic stress, which blocks our ability to hope. Here’s why: the amygdala, the brain’s alarm center, reacts with fight, flight, or freeze (Akil & Nestler, 2023; LeDoux, 1996). This reaction can save our lives in an emergency. When we’re in a crosswalk and see a car speeding toward us, we can react by stopping or jumping out of the way.

But when stress becomes chronic, it can compromise our health, weaken our immune system, lead to anxiety and depression, and keep us from thinking clearly (Akil & Nestler, 1023; Gouin, 2011).

Chronic stress keeps us stuck in dysfunction, unable to move forward with hope. The stress reaction compromises our higher brain centers, undermining our ability to think clearly, remember, relate to others, and solve our problems (Brackett, 2025; Öhman et al., 2007). We react defensively—“fight” someone who disagrees with us as the enemy, withdraw in fear (“flight”), or “freeze” in helplessness and hopelessness.

The first step in developing greater hope is to recognize when we’re feeling stressed and use a strategy to gain greater peace of mind (Goetzke, 2022). Many strategies are simple and accessible (Dreher, 2025; Geetanjali et al., 2023). Here are two:

Breathe. Stanford neurosurgeon Jim Doty (2016) would take three deep mindful breaths to relieve stress and focus during complex brain surgery. If this works in stressful brain surgery, it should help with our challenges too.

Practice Self-Compassion. Psychologist Kristin Neff (2011; 2023) recommends these three steps:

1. Name your feeling. Tune in to how you feel. Tell yourself, “I feel stressed. . .anxious. . .worried. . .ashamed. . . upset. . .sad. . .angry. . .” or whatever you’re feeling.
2. Recognize your common humanity. Tell yourself “It’s only human to feel this way.”
3. Be a caring friend to yourself. Talk to yourself as you would a dear friend, saying reassuring words like “this is hard but I’m here for you. We can get through this.”

Then you can begin practicing active hope with goals, pathways, and agency (Feldman & Dreher, 2012; Feldman et al., 2023). Set a personal, professional, or altruistic goal. Then come up with pathways — a few steps to reach your goal, and build your agency or motivation.

A personal goal might be fitness and a pathway could be to work out three times a week. A professional goal might be to search for a new job and a pathway to search online for opportunities and arrange informational interviews. An altruistic goal could be making a contribution to your community. My friend who retired from selling real estate now teaches reading at the local library.

These days we have many opportunities to develop active hope by setting an altruistic goal. Instead of obsessing about current problems of hunger, homelessness, environmental damage, and political unrest, we can view them as a menu of possibilities and choose one area to work on.

During a recent freeze in SNAP benefits, my neighbors and I set a goal to help collect food. For our pathways, we put canned goods in brown bags in front of our houses and one neighbor picked them up and took them to the local food bank. Our efforts not only provided food for people in need but brought us a greater sense of agency. We felt more energized, because we were making a difference together.

You can begin your own positive program of active hope by writing down:

1. A Goal that’s meaningful to you.
2. Pathways. Three steps to your goal, an obstacle that might get in the way of each step, and an alternative step for each—for a backup plan if you need it.
3. Agency. Build your agency by taking a few moments to visualize yourself reaching your goal. Take care of your health—get enough sleep, healthy food, and exercise. You can also remember a time you reached a goal and tell yourself “I did that then; I can do this now.” You can say an affirmation—like “si se puede,” or “Yes we can!” And you can connect with a friend to work on your goals together, building an empowering sense of teamwork and community.

By recognizing and relieving your stress and following these steps, you can build greater hope for yourself and our collective future.

This post is for informational purposes and should not substitute for psychotherapy with a qualified professional. © 2026 Diane Dreher, All Rights Reserved.